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Mary Gaitskill [1954-0] American

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Mary Gaitskill is an American novelist, essayist, and short story writer. Her work has appeared in The New Yorker, Harper's Magazine, Esquire, The Best American Short Stories, and The O. Henry Prize Stories.

Anger, Courage, Fear, Sad

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What is faithfulness, anyway? Can you be unfaithful to your own feelings and faithful to someone else? Is it faithful to lie in bed night after night with someone you love but no longer desire while ardently dreaming of someone else?		101
Perhaps it should be obvious: Adultery is a social threat that arouses raw anger and fear, which the bellicose then need to discharge rather than merely feel, traditionally on the philandering wife or the female home-wrecker.	Anger, Fear	102
People sometimes turn out to be almost the opposite of how they present. It isn't because they're trying to fool you or because they're hypocrites. It's because they badly want to be that thing, and so they'll try to be it.		103
My first and strongest memories about perfume come from childhood, from my mother, and they are a complex blend of her private and public selves.		104
It's scary to me to watch the world around us get less and less physical while in the imaginary world of pop culture, aggressive impulses and fear reactions are floridly, furiously stoked and indulged.		105
I didn't start thinking about what I wanted to do professionally until I was 17. I was a hippie, but I did write.		106
I think that with the proliferation of writing programs, people tend to forget that you also have to get used to working alone, and you have to be your own support.		107
The hard truth is that there are people who believe they're writers and work hard at it and are sincere about it, but they don't make it. You have to be prepared for that possibility.		108
When I was writing 'Bad Behavior,' I was very, very quiet. I would just sit there and listen to people. And if I was out in public, I was usually quiet, and people tended to assume I was stupid because I was a young, pretty girl who's quiet.		109
I loved to read and would read anything that roused my interest, whether it was below my age level or above it, even if I could barely make sense of it.		110
Anne Frank's diary made a very big impression on me at age 12 or so.		111
Three writers together would be a nightmare of obstreperous self-consciousness.		112
I wanted to communicate and connect. I simply didn't seem able to do it.		113
Married, you're basically part of the herd, and that makes life easier in a lot of ways in terms of social support. But if you're not by nature a herd animal, you start to feel like you're passing.		114
Where I grew up, in the Detroit area, there was a really good station. Sometimes you would hear songs for the first time on the radio, and if a really special song came on, somebody would turn it up, and everybody would just stop talking.		115
People say that if you talk too much about sex, you take away the mystery. I say, if you're somebody who likes to talk, talk all you want - it's not listening. You will never take away the mystery.		116
I don't think that the Internet creates feelings that aren't there, nor does it provide an outlet. On the contrary, what I have thought about things like computer games - what has disturbed me about them - is that they appear to stimulate feelings of aggression without providing any physical release.		117
Something like riding a horse - which I've recently started doing - requires courage, especially for me, as I started out being actually scared of horses.	Courage	118
Everyone says 'Anna Karenina' is about individual desire going against society, but I actually think the opposite is stronger: the way societal forces limit the expression of the individual.		119
I believe that the truest parts of people can be buried, and for many different reasons.		120
I don't know if I can say exactly what I seek in books, but one of them would be to deepen and expand my understanding of the world.		121
Having watched television, I would kind of play the role or picture myself on a television show or something like that. That's maybe always been true of a certain type of kid, even before television maybe, but I think it's been amplified to an insane level.		122
When looking out the window and watching the water becomes a drama, then literally everything is a drama.		123
There is a sense in which we have - like, I go in to teach a class; I may be somewhat different than I would be talking to you, although it's related because it's public. I'm very different with my roommate or my lover or my cats. But I don't know if that means you're acting, really, if you're being truthful.		124
I think a lot of writing, or a lot of young writers, especially, hold themselves back unnecessarily because they're so upset about the idea that they might be sentimental or so concerned about being criticized that way or even being that way that they just shy away from any strong expression or emotion.		125
I used to start at about 10 at night and work until early morning. My preferred way to work is to start in the early afternoon and work until about 3, go do errands, have dinner, and then write for a few more hours in the evening.		126
Sometimes I decide I don't want to write because it isn't the thing for me to be doing right then, and I go do something else.		201
Writing requires an intense inner focus, and sometimes you need to express outward, physically or socially.		202
I think it actually started in my late thirties. I started changing psychologically, and it was difficult to translate that into my writing.		203
I didn't want to keep forcing myself to grind out book after book.		204
Stories are the rich, unseen underlayer of the most ordinary moments.		205
Stories mimic life like certain insects mimic leaves and twigs.		206
If anything is scary about my writing, it's that it's the product of a very particular vision and doesn't reference common speech that heavily. By 'common speech,' I don't mean language as much as an agreed-on way of seeing, or a shorthand.		207
I remember back in the '90s, I used to feel criticized by women for not having children. Like there must be something wrong with me.		208
I've noticed women my age and a little younger, anywhere from 35 to 50, saying, 'Who would want to bring kids into a world like this?' Or, 'I don't want to spend my life that way. I want to do my artwork.' And they're very unapologetically stating this.		209
Somebody once said to me, 'If you want to be understood, don't write fiction.'		210
I think once you write fiction, you put it out, and it can be interpreted in a variety of ways, some of which are going to be shocking to the writer.		211
I think that's the real reason, sometimes, that people talk about my stories as being scary, because if you compare what goes on in my stories to what goes on in popular movies and popular songs, it's very mild.		212
I feel I'm often misunderstood by critics. People project a lot or exaggerate the subjective fragility simply because it's frightening to them.		213
You can't tell an 18-year-old to keep it down and turn off Britney Spears or whatever it is that they listen to.		214
I had a strong conviction that there was something out there in the world that was wonderful.		215
I had really wanted adventure. At the time that I ran away, lots of kids ran away from home. It was something of a social phenomenon.		216
It's true that your environment influences how you write.		217
I didn't like horses when I was a kid.		218
I think people try to make the most of their time on Earth and also to 'fix' their time on Earth.		219
The first person to blow up my fashion consciousness was a 14-year-old girl named Sandrine. She was the most beautiful human I had ever seen.		220
Between my hatred of mall shopping and my mother's firm ideas about how a girl should dress, my style choices were pretty unenthusiastic: plaid skirts or whatever empire-waisted thingamabob was on sale at Sears.		221
The two basic social identities were Normal and Greaser; although a few sophisticated girls wore peace signs, hippies didn't exist, and while a seminal punk band, Iggy and the Stooges, was playing in nearby Ann Arbor, punk didn't exist yet, either.		222
A sad person who is so involved with his sadness that he mistakes it for reality will have a hard time seeing himself as anything but sad. For him, the sadness is not a feeling that he experiences - it is him.	Sad	223
Sometimes I write from the point of view of characters whom I would dislike as people, not as a perverse exercise, but because this cracks the story open and makes me see it in a way I would not see it naturally.		224
Not being locked into one set of feelings, which you run the risk of mistaking for the truth, you have greater and more intense access to all feeling states, including those you would never choose to act out.		225
One hot summer night in San Francisco, roughly 10 years ago, I was sitting in a crowded Pacific Heights restaurant when Alice Adams walked in with a man. She was about 60 at the time, and she was wearing a skirt that fell an inch or so above her knees and flat heels without stockings.		226
At 16, I was in Toronto and very shy and not hanging around with anyone who was intellectual in the slightest, so I didn't really have the means to discuss what I was seeing and feeling.		301
I found the world extraordinarily strange, having first left home at 15.		302
Monogamy is desirable for many reasons, especially in creating a stable, emotionally connected home for children. But judging from centuries of human behavior, it is also a very difficult standard to meet.		303
For two people to satisfy everything each needs for their entire lives is a tall order. Some couples may be equipped to do this. Some are not.		304
I wasn't ever anybody who had a political thing against marriage, but I just thought, 'Why would I want to do that?'		305
The appeal of perfume is that it is at once ephemeral and empowering. It creates a shimmering invisible armor that lingers in a room long after its wearer has gone and infuses our imagination with a subtle power, hinting at a hidden identity.		306
My parents had met in high school and married right after my father came back from World War II. They honeymooned in Paris and returned to that city when my father, in college on the G.I. Bill, was awarded a Fulbright Scholarship.		307
On the rare occasions when my mother perfumed herself, she was going out, and so I rarely smelled those special scents up close on her body, except during kisses goodbye.		308

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